Keeping Her Hooked - How to Get a Girlfriend on Facebook Chat

Golden Rules of How to Get a Girlfriend on Facebook Chat

This is Part 2 “Keeping Her Hooked” of the Golden Rules of How to Get a Girlfriend on Facebook Chat.

Back to Part 1 – Getting a Conversation Started Online or continue next to Part 3 – Making Her Your Girlfriend.

Part 2 – How to Get a Girlfriend on Facebook Chat – Keeping Her Hooked

1 – Show that you’re interested in her. If you want the girl to keep talking to you, then you should let her know that you really do care about her. At first, just keep the conversation light and breezy, but subtly work in some compliments to keep the conversation moving forward. You can say something like, “It’s so easy to talk to you” or “You crack me up.” Let her know that you really appreciate her personality and that you look forward to your conversations.

You can carefully even compliment her looks in one of the photos she posted. You can say, “That’s a cute dress” or “Your hair looks pretty like that.” Just don’t overdo it or you may creep her out.

2 – Don’t come on too strong. It’s one thing to make interesting conversation online and to build your relationship with a girl over Facebook. However, it’s another to always be online waiting for her, to message her the second she gets on, and to send her a million messages while she barely responds. Make sure that you’re both messaging each other first about the same amount, that you’re not online 24/7, and that it seems like she’s as interested in the conversation as you are.

You don’t want her to feel like you’ll be on Facebook every time she signs on. Leave her wondering whether or not you’ll be there.

3 – Show that you have a life outside of Facebook. If you want the girl to be interested in you, then you have to show her that you have things going on besides uploading new photos to your Facebook account. You can talk about fun weekend plans you’re having, something you’re looking forward to that evening, or just mention some friends you’re going to see later. You shouldn’t lie to make your life seem cooler than it really is, but you should let her see that you’re more than just the guy who is always on Facebook.

If you’re leaving to celebrate your Aunt Bertha’s 50th birthday, you don’t have to tell her that. Just say, “I have to go meet some people,” so you keep it vague enough for her to know that you have plans without knowing all the details.

4 – Consider subtly referencing her profile or Facebook posts. Though this can be creepy at first, once you get to know her, you can talk about some of the things she posted online. If she posted a photo of her and her friends spending the weekend at Lake Tahoe, then you can ask her how the trip went. If she posts a news article that she cares about, you can talk to her about it — as long as it doesn’t lead to a fight. This can give you something to talk about and can keep your conversation going strong.

You shouldn’t do this at the beginning of the conversation, but use it as a resource if you run out of other things to talk about.

5 – Show that you’re really paying attention. If you really want to catch the girl’s eye, then you have to show her that you care about who she is as a person. If she mentions something, like an upcoming dance recital, bring it up the next time, asking how it went. If you saw her in school and noticed she was wearing a new dress or cut her hair, give her a compliment (without being creepy). Let her know that you actually pay attention to her and that you take note of her looks and of what she says.

– You can say something like, “So how did the math test go? Was it as bad as you thought?” Or, “Did you end up having fun at your uncle’s birthday party?” This will show her that you care about the details.
– If you need a refresher on what you talked about, then you can always scroll through your conversation.

6 – Sign off while things are still interesting. Another thing you can do to keep her hooked is to end the conversation when it’s getting good. You don’t want to have a great convo for a while and then run out of things to say before you have to get going. Find a time when the conversation is really interesting and then begin to wrap it up before you sign off, so you leave her wanting more.

– Of course, you should still be nice and tell her you have to get going instead of signing off abruptly.
– This advice is true for talking to the girl in person, too. You should part ways while the conversation is going great, instead of when things are lagging, in order to leave a good impression.

Golden Rules of How to Get a Girlfriend on Facebook Chat

This is Part 2 “Keeping Her Hooked” of the Golden Rules of How to Get a Girlfriend on Facebook Chat.

Back to Part 1 – Getting a Conversation Started Online or continue next to Part 3 – Making Her Your Girlfriend.

Keeping Her Hooked - How to Get a Girlfriend on Facebook Chat

How to Get a Girlfriend on Facebook Chat - Making Her Your Girlfriend

Part 3 – How to Get a Girlfriend on Facebook Chat – Making Her Your Girlfriend

1 – Consider asking her out online. One thing you can do is to ask the girl out, or even ask her to be your girlfriend, over Facebook. Though some girls may wish you had done this in-person, if you have a really strong bond online and think that she would respond well, then you can consider asking her out right over the Internet. Many people would warn you against this, but if you think this is right for you and your girl, then you can try simply finding a moment when the timing is right, and then asking her if she’d like to be your girlfriend.

Asking her out online can help take some of the pressure off both of you. You don’t have to worry so much about saying the perfect thing because you’ll be typing, and she won’t have to worry so much about giving the perfect answer for the same reason.

2 – Spend some time with her in person first. Though you may have really fallen in love over the Internet, it can help you to get a better sense of who the girl is, and whether or not you’re really compatible, by spending some time with her in person. If you’re in the same school or live nearby, then start by initiating casual group hangouts with her, and then see if you can hang out solo, even if you’re just grabbing lunch, taking a walk, or seeing a movie. This can give you a better sense of whether or not you two would be a great match.

Just be casual about it. Say something like, “I’m hanging out at the mall with a few of my buddies this weekend. Do you want to come join us with a few friends?” Or, “Are you checking out the carnival tonight? I’ll be there with a few people.”

3 – Make sure the feeling is mutual. Whether you’re hanging out solo in person, or just chatting online, before you pop the question, you should get a sense of whether or not the girl likes you as more than a friend. Though you may get along great, she may think of you as more of a buddy, or she may just have her eye on someone else. When you’re with her or talking to her, see if she’s really excited to you, if she flirts a bit, and if she asks you questions about your life. Think about it more to see if she has a crush on you.

Of course, you’re not a mind reader, and it can be tricky to know whether or not she really likes you if you’re only talking online. It can be hard to pick up on things like her tone and personality if you don’t get a lot of face time.

4 – Find the right time to ask her. If you’ve decided to ask her to be your girlfriend, then you have to find the right moment to ask her, whether you’re asking online or in person. If you’re asking online, then you should find a moment in the conversation where you’re complimenting each other, having a great chat, or talking about hanging out soon. If you’re in person, make sure you’re alone, that she’s in a good mood, and that you’re really connecting before you ask.

Once the timing and moment is right, just tell her that you really like her and that you’d love it if she was your girlfriend. It doesn’t have to be an elaborate speech and she’ll really appreciate the directness. Just say, “I’ve really liked getting to know you. You’re so smart and funny and so easy to talk to. I would love it if you would be my girlfriend.”

5 – React appropriately. Whether she says yes or no, it’s important to react in a way that makes you look like a mature gentleman. If she says she’d like to be your girlfriend, then you should do a little dance, let her see how happy you are, and show her some affection. If she turns you down, then act like it’s no big deal. Tell her you hope you can still be friends and that you appreciate her honesty.

If your relationship does blossom into a full-fledged boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, then you can focus on spending more time together in person, and less time flirting with her on the Internet.

How to Get a Girlfriend on Facebook Chat - Making Her Your Girlfriend